A Cold Hard Dose of Reality

Of late, many doses in fact.

That aside, I would like to take the opportunity to have with you a little chat about that particular behavioural syndrome popularly termed "boh sim" here in singapore.

"boh sim" is an expression borrowed from the hokkien dialect that typically describes a state of "having no consideration for others" or "not having the interests of a particular someone at heart". put simply, the term conveys succinctly the subject's state of disappointment or heartbreak at a third person's lack of sensitivity or consideration for said subject and/or specific situation.

last night, i was made the victim of an acute case of boh sim-ness.

the sms informed that she was skipping the wedding because she was going on holiday with her husband from the 17th to the 26th of december. and oh, sorry for telling you so late but we can try to meet up before or after the wedding?

i was livid.

for the benefit of my readers , let us go through the reasons why i felt unimportant, looked-over and abandoned by the news.

1. she chose a holiday with her husband over my wedding.

2. she failed to rsvp, despite my mentioning on the invitation that guests should rsvp by 13th november.

3. she only told me ONE WEEK to the wedding, which leaves me about 30 milliseconds to call the hotel manager, revise the guest turnout and remove her name from the seating list.

4. she didnt bother to tell me earlier despite the fact that holidays have to be booked WAAAY in advance during a peak travelling period like the month of december.

5. couldn't she have postponed her departure by a day?

6. all i got was a measly sms. if you have to break my heart, at least have the guts to do it over the phone.

granted that we're not fantastically close friends. granted that we havent been contacting each other very often. still, i thought her attendance was a given. that she probably thought it was unnecessary to rsvp since she would definitely be at the wedding come hailstone or tornado.

maybe i am over-equating things here, but sometimes friendships are really worth crap.